I HAVE WORDS LIKE THAT TOO. AND I WAS JUST THINKING ABOUT THEM.
Two of mine are Kaufman and Feynman. I know how they are pronounced but I still never pronounce them correctly. And I should know better, because I have a last name that is usually mispronounced myself, and it's annoying. Plus you look like an idiot when you're talking about how much you love someone and someone points out that you're pronouncing their name wrong. #potpsychology
Ahhaahaha. This reminds me of a friend of mine who keeps misusing the term "OPP." She thinks it means "Other People's Problems."
She uses it all. the. time. I have to keep reminding her that no matter how much she wants to make the new definition of OPP happen, Naughty By Nature have already claimed it, and she just has to give it up and stop humiliating herself! I am NOT down with the new definition of OPP! #potpsychology
It's kind of sad that the woman profiled here wants a baby so badly that she will pay for this procedure and undergo fertility treatments, but that she wouldn't consider having a child outside of the traditional hetero relationship, so she is freezing her eggs until she waits for "Mr. Right." That does not seem terribly empowering. #eggfreezing
This show is absolutely filled to the brim with absurdity and so much of what is wrong with our society, but if I had to choose the cake-topper from last night, it would definitely be Lynn's comment to her daughter about how she was "practically a playboy bunny already!" Oh right, and she said it while at consultation for plastic surgery where, when he wasn't molesting her brow and showing her how she could look like the cat lady, the doctor mentioned a mother/daughter recovery! OH, AND this was all because her daughter's birthday was coming up and she already got a bmw the year before so, hey, why not a nose job!?! #therealhousewivesoftheocbroke
@Conchie Birdie: What makes this whole thing especially ironic is that we know from the previews that Lynn and her family get served with eviction papers for failure to pay rent on their home in a future episode. #therealhousewivesoftheocbroke
@KentuckyBabe: You can have my future babies then, when they're self-shitting. But once they can speak in complete sentences, please to return them. #eggfreezing
Ykno, most of the time when they clean out a cat nest on Animal Cops, it's an old man's house. But maybe you could say, people report old men cat hoarders b/c it's unnatural and wrong? Or not, ionno. #catladies
Only 1000 births worldwide? That can't be right. There's been at least a thousand births, plus subsequent murders, plus subsequent twists (they were the receptionists eggs!) on Law and Order SVU alone. #eggfreezing
If a person has the funds to do this and would like to do so, then I will not stand in their way. But please don't tell me that it's "empowering" - it's such an overused word, and often heralds an effort to sell women an expensive service that really isn't necessary to their overall life happiness.
What is empowering is telling women that any decision they make - to be mothers, not to be mothers, to have children naturally, to adopt, to not give a flying fuck about what anybody thinks about any of it except what they know in their heart is right for them - that is to truly empower women. Providing them with yet another way to expend large amounts of money to live up to social pressures - eh, I'm not so sure about that. Yes, many women really do want to be mothers, and I think it's great that there are resources for them - I'm just uncomfortable with how often it seems to be couched in a sales pitch.
And it would help if some medical professionals could refrain from saying "You go girl" while holding out their hand for money. #eggfreezing
And please, no more "you go girl," especially not when aimed at grown-ass women. It reminds me too much of my pink "Get In Shape Girl!" exercise equipment from when I was 7. #eggfreezing
@Flackette Goes Retro: I don't agree that women freeze eggs--or have children, for that matter--to live up to social pressures. They do it because they want to have children. #eggfreezing
@ihateyourescalade: Maybe I should rephrase what I originally said. I guess I just don't like the idea that for whatever reason women (and men) seem to believe that the most legit way to have children is by having them with their own DNA - even if that means extreme (and extremely expensive) measures like egg-freezing. My family has a history of adoption, so I just get edgy about anything that smacks of insisting that bio kids are the most legitimate kids. It's the same reason I get squirmy around conversations about egg donation, IVF, etc., by couples who do not investigate adoption.
It's a complicated thing, and for me it just reminds me of people who insist that I'm not related to some of my own relatives, because we do not share DNA.
So, I can totally see why this is empowering for someone who places a premium on having biologically related children and being pregnant themselves. I think my original discomfort stems from the idea that this seems to privilege the actual creation of biological children over any other conception of parenthood. There are lots of ways to become a parent, at any stage of life. This is my personal issue, I recognize, but I just feel very squicky when people talk about extending fertility via very expensive methods like this.
@Flackette Goes Retro: Your reasoning makes sense. This stuff is tough. I really wanted my own child--not because I thought it was "better" per se but out of love for Mr. Escalade and the desire to "create" a person with him. (Weird-sounding, I know, but for many the desire to reproduce is as strong and consuming as sexual desire.) That said, had I been unable to conceive, I would have personally preferred adoption to fertility treatments, though I have nothing against anyone who wants to go that route.
It's wrong of any person to say one way of having a child is any better than any other way, or that having a child is better than not having one, or that not having one is better than having one. And it's really wrong to say that an adopted child is any less legitimate than a biological child. I'm so sorry you have had to put up with ignorant people.
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Two of mine are Kaufman and Feynman. I know how they are pronounced but I still never pronounce them correctly. And I should know better, because I have a last name that is usually mispronounced myself, and it's annoying. Plus you look like an idiot when you're talking about how much you love someone and someone points out that you're pronouncing their name wrong. #potpsychology
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@Vivien Smith-Smythe-Smith: #potpsychology
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She uses it all. the. time. I have to keep reminding her that no matter how much she wants to make the new definition of OPP happen, Naughty By Nature have already claimed it, and she just has to give it up and stop humiliating herself! I am NOT down with the new definition of OPP! #potpsychology
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Ykno, most of the time when they clean out a cat nest on Animal Cops, it's an old man's house. But maybe you could say, people report old men cat hoarders b/c it's unnatural and wrong? Or not, ionno. #catladies
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What is empowering is telling women that any decision they make - to be mothers, not to be mothers, to have children naturally, to adopt, to not give a flying fuck about what anybody thinks about any of it except what they know in their heart is right for them - that is to truly empower women. Providing them with yet another way to expend large amounts of money to live up to social pressures - eh, I'm not so sure about that. Yes, many women really do want to be mothers, and I think it's great that there are resources for them - I'm just uncomfortable with how often it seems to be couched in a sales pitch.
And it would help if some medical professionals could refrain from saying "You go girl" while holding out their hand for money. #eggfreezing
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And please, no more "you go girl," especially not when aimed at grown-ass women. It reminds me too much of my pink "Get In Shape Girl!" exercise equipment from when I was 7. #eggfreezing
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It's a complicated thing, and for me it just reminds me of people who insist that I'm not related to some of my own relatives, because we do not share DNA.
So, I can totally see why this is empowering for someone who places a premium on having biologically related children and being pregnant themselves. I think my original discomfort stems from the idea that this seems to privilege the actual creation of biological children over any other conception of parenthood. There are lots of ways to become a parent, at any stage of life. This is my personal issue, I recognize, but I just feel very squicky when people talk about extending fertility via very expensive methods like this.
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It's wrong of any person to say one way of having a child is any better than any other way, or that having a child is better than not having one, or that not having one is better than having one. And it's really wrong to say that an adopted child is any less legitimate than a biological child. I'm so sorry you have had to put up with ignorant people.
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